Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Premarital Counseling

Premarital counseling is not usually priority on the list of things to do before marriage (unless it is a prerequisite). Why isn't this given priority?
With the divorce rate in the U.S. being over 50%, why shouldn't premarital education be one of the first things couples consider.
Would it be so wrong to learn how to be better at communicating with each other?

A third-party can help you sort out issues that you should know about each other before you get married:
Where will you live?
Who will handle the finances?
Do you both want children? How many?
If you do have children-how will you raise them?
These are the little things that sometimes go unmentioned because one partner assumes that the other wants one thing, when they don't.

If you can spend months (years for some people) planning a wedding, then weeks of counseling should not be a burden.
Many churches offer premarital counseling and for many, like the Catholic Church, has its "Preparation for Marriage" (which is a prerequisite).
If you are not religious, you don't have to rule out counseling. You can seek out premarital education programs that are not religiously affiliated.

Marriage is a lifetime commitment and there is nothing wrong with getting some help on how to make it work. If you haven't considered premarital counseling, I hope you will after reading this.

1 comment:

  1. it is a requirement with our pastor and actually one of the things i'm most looking forward too! my FH is dreading it..typical!